#3 – Finding Zen In A Life Long Relationship and What Questions To Ask When There Are Differences In Beliefs About “Politics?”
This is the third of a number of series of Defunkin’ The Funk Blog posts we are going to share about once a month to help you find, achieve, and sustain harmony with your chosen mate.
For this series, the category will be “Politics”
One of the goals for a martial artist is to seek to find harmony through their training throughout their life.
For some martial artists, as well as many other people, finding a mate in harmony with the same philosophy might seem a little daunting. So how does one acquire this harmony with their new mate?
What is this “harmony”? Is it not the ultimate end of what you are trying to accomplish or seek in a long term relationship as well as everything else in life? Is it not the balance of the body, mind, and sprit in which one might find in another, together as one?
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” ― Aristotle
So how does a martial artist, or anyone for that matter, balance the physical, mental, and spiritual in a long term relationship? How does anyone reach or acquire harmony with their chosen mate?
You must understand yourself before you can understand others. What you leave behind in life you always must go back and get, in order to have balance and harmony. The easiest example of this point, to help you understand, is look at all the people you know that are in a happy relationship and those that have ended in an unhappy state of affairs. The difference between happy and unhappy is in the harmony of the physical, mental and spiritual aspect and characteristics of the traditions and values of both individuals.
Let us try to come up with a series of practical questions that can be used to evaluate the compatibility of 2 individuals trying to come together in harmony and balance like the yin and yang and that can last for a lifetime.
The following is a list of pertinent questions to help identify and recognize important issues that would get in the way of acquiring a high level of harmony between you and your chosen mate. In my humble opinion, both people should seek to answer these questions as honestly as possible.
1. Were politics, political issues, and social action important to you and your family growing up?
2. On a personal level, which political issues are near and dear to your heart? Such as, the budget, taxes, national security, privacy, human rights, inequality, etc…
3. If your closest friends or relatives were asked to label you, would they say you are a liberal, a moderate, or a conservative? Or do you accept one of the labels depending on the issue at hand?
4. Are you actively involved with or affiliated with a specific political party?
5. Did you vote in the last election? If the answer is no, why not?
6. From your point of view, is the current political machine biased against certain races of people, people with low income or means, and the disenfranchised?
7. Do you believe in the American system and American dream? If not, why not?
8. In your opinion, can two people have a successful marriage with opposing political viewpoints?
9. So far in your lifetime, have you ever ended a relationship directly because of political ideas, beliefs, or ideologies?
When you read chapter 10 of my book “How Not To Be Young And Stupid” you will understand where I’m coming from and why I picked this excerpt from my book and posted it here. Of course, to get the whole idea, you need to read the complete chapter.
Here is an excerpt from Chapter 10, “Choosing Your Own Path In Life”.
Tony Robbins said: “It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.”
“There Is No Free Lunch”
Before I go any further, I would like to say that I am not advocating any political policies or any ideologies. You must remember too, that I have my own personal beliefs. In the same breath, I will say this; information is found almost anywhere you look concerning our government and its laws. This includes the federal as well as state governments. I’m sure you can think of some other institutions as well. Politics is politics.
Most people do think about politics in their own way, and it is their right. Then too, remember if you already have not seen this, when people talk about politics they speak from their own experience on this topic and put their personal spin when they are communicating to others as they speak. One of my pet peeves is the media doing this all the time with politics. Everybody always claims to be “Fair and Balanced”, but if they are human, I wonder, are they really?
Next month look for Series 4 and more questions to ask to “Finding Zen In A Life Long Relationship”
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